After being on center stage as a speaker, Loneliness and Isolation are common companions knocking at the hotel room door after an event. I had invited these two cronies in one night after being on a training tour across Texas and Louisiana for a week.

It was a long day starting early with back to back training sessions and ending with being the keynote speaker at a black tie Chamber of Commerce event. I’d just settled down in my room when the phone rang.

“Hi. I finally caught you! What are you doing?” My husband’s voice sounded strong and happy. We had been playing telephone tag for days. His business had him on the road too.

“I’m having a pity party. I’m eating a chili dog and potato chips here in the middle of the bed.” My voice wasn’t strong or happy. Loneliness and Isolation were enjoying the party.

After visiting with my husband on the phone I felt better. There was still a flicker of pity in the room. So I swept the crumbs off the bed, got ready for bed and opened the book of Psalms. With being so weary, I didn’t think I would read for long before my eyes would close out the long day. However, that is not what happened.

While reading, pity left and peace came in. Before turning off the light, I prayed and asked God to help me deal with Loneliness and Isolation while away from family and friends.

Over the years I’ve learned there are fun and healthy ways to keep these two cohorts at bay.

        1.   Debrief. Share a cup of tea/coffee with a fellow-speaker afterwards to come down off a presenter’s high gradually.

         2.  Pre-set a dinner date. Arrange to have a meal with a fellow-speaker before or after the event. You maybe saving someone else from having a pity party if you reach out and ask a speaker you’ve never met to join you. A new friendship may begin.

         3.    Rewards work. Treat yourself to your favorite author’s newest book. Enjoy reading without interruption.

4.   Don’t become over tired. Book engagements with reasonable rest bits in between. A rested speaker is an enthusiastic speaker.

5.   Don’t stay at a hotel. Staying with family, friends or fellow-CC grads when an out of town booking brings you into their area. To do so keeps Loneliness and Isolation away.

My pity party candle was blown out that day. I don’t open the door to L & I any more. Psalms is my reliable friend on and off stage.

Speak on, Dear Friends. Speak on!


The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. ~ Psalm 34:18